No expectations!

Even though I tell people who come to see me not to have expectations, I know it's only human nature to do so. They still come to me hoping to hear from a specific things from a specific person. 

Last night though, I did a discernment for a young lady (17 years old) that proved to me that I'm right in asking for this seemingly unreasonable request. Cathy (not her real name) was with her aunt Kerri, and I said to Kerri, "Who's Tracy?"

"I don't know," Kerri said. 

"Yes, you do," I insisted. "She's has a grandmother who passed from some kind of brain condition, dementia, Alzheimer's, something along those lines."

It went back and forth between us, with Kerri insisting she didn't know who Tracy was and I insisting that she did. 

Suddenly Cathy said, "Oh my god! I know who that is!" I looked over at her. Her lips were trembling. Actually, her whole body was literally shaking. "Tracy is my father's ex-girlfriend! Her grandmother had dementia when she died!" 

So I asked her to verify a couple more pieces of evidence, which she did. When I was confident I was with the right person, I told her, "You're right, I'm with you." 

The one thing that puzzled both Cathy and me was why this woman was coming through for her. After all, the woman herself was telling me she barely knew Cathy, which Cathy again confirmed. She apparently heard a lot about Cathy from her daughter, the ex-girlfriend of Cathy's father. 

She was coming through to encourage Cathy to follow her dreams. During the discernment, things came through that her mother, who was also there, confirmed that there was no way I could have known it unless I was being told by someone they couldn't see or hear. This woman wanted Cathy to know she was worthy of what she wanted for herself, something she was never told by her father. 

After the session was over and I was driving home, I knew her life would be different due to the discernment. I couldn't help but wonder, though, what would have happened to Cathy and the kind of choices she would have made if she shut this woman out. After all, this woman was not the person Cathy was expecting, or even hoping,  to hear from! 

Secrets

I normally don't talk to someone after they receive a discernment from me. Let me clarify that, a lot of people will tell me about things that came through during a discernment, as well as cherished memories of their loved one. But usually, they don't bother to keep in touch with me. 

Writing my book, I asked people who have received a discernment from me for their stories, and I was honestly surprised as to how few people actually responded. Well, I got an idea as to why last night. A woman who received a discernment from me three weeks ago told me how "vulnerable" she felt during the session. 

When I'm bringing someone through, I'm privy to a number of "secrets." It's usually how someone who has crossed over let's their loved one know it's really them. Believe me, I think I've heard them all. I don't remember the last time I was shocked. 

Luckily for me, I have a very short memory when it comes to these "secrets." I think it's because I'm accessing a part of my brain during a discernment that becomes "dormant" when the session is over. 

So why would someone who's coming through risk embarrassing their loved one by bringing up a long lost memory, or feeling of guilt? Because usually when someone comes to see me, there's often a feeling of unfinished business. Often it's because there wasn't a chance to say good-bye. It may be a feeling of not having done enough, or not having said, "I'm sorry," for a hurt that was caused. Many times it's about moving on with our lives here on this plane. 

Whatever it is, it's usually something that needs to come out in the open in order to be healed, and let go of, so our journey on this life of life can continued and their journey on the other side can evolve as well. The bottom line is that if you live your life to the full, and love those in your life to the full, you probably won't need a medium such as myself to make amends to those you love, and express that love you feel, when it's a little too late to do so, at least while they and you, are alive. 

Back to my roots

It was never my intention to become a medium, communicating with those who crossed over to the other side. What I did want to do though was spend my life investigating reports of hauntings, apparitions, and poltergeist activity. Doing just that is how I honed the ability I now use to make my living. 

Even though I'm out of the field on a "full time" basis, I do help out with a group called Colorado Paranormal Rescue (http://www.coloradoparanormalrescue.com). And that's what I'll be doing later on tonight. 

I have no clue as to what is supposedly going on, and I won't be told until after I give my impressions. It's something I still enjoy doing, and I'll tell you all about it tomorrow. 

Until then....

Anthony

http://www.anthonyquinata.com

Weeding my garden

Is there someone in your life that you only hear from when they need something? I have, or I should say, I had someone in my life like that. Until this morning that is. 

The person I'm referring to is having problems financially, and is trying to make a go of it as a professional graphologist. So asked me for me, so I made a number of suggestions as to what she could do to gain more exposure. Typically, she would tell me how that wouldn't work for her, and then I wouldn't hear from her again, until she wanted, or needed more advice. 

I'm not sure which amazes me more… the idea that she thought she could get away with it with me, of all people, or the idea that I let her get away with as long as I did. Now, I know that the majority of the responsibility for the way she acted towards me is my own. However, one of the things I've come to realize as I've healed is that my life is too short to have this type of person in it. 

There's a very popular morning radio show here in Denver with two disc jockeys that talks about "weeding your garden," as in ridding your life of people who just don't fit in it. This can sometimes be a hard thing to do, but it's necessary in the name of LOVE. In this case, love of yourself. 

I really believe that every once in a while it's a good idea to take a look at the garden of our lives, and pull up the weeds taking away from our enjoyment of it. 

I was filling in for Larry, a palmist who works at Cornerstone Bookstore in Englewood, CO on Wednesdays. He couldn't be there yesterday, so he asked me if I could go in for him. 

While I was there I met a customer named Sally. She told me that she's a high school English teacher, and that she was a skeptic about what I do. She told me that her skepticism was based on her belief that most of the people who claim to be psychic in any way, shape or form are claiming to be so in order to bilk people out of their money. 

Well, after the session I had the night before, I just couldn't help myself. "Your father passed. Yes?"

"Yes."

"Do you take the name 'Alan?'" 

"That was his middle name!"

"He's telling me he was a real joker. A practical joker."

"Yes, he was."

And so it went, for about ten minutes. Long enough to change her skepticism into one in which she was a little more open to the idea that death doesn't end life, love, or relationships. In the end, I told her that he was telling me that this was his "Gotcha!" for her. 

I don't usually ambush people with a discernment, but after the other night … well, this was really satisfying. 

No expectations!

I did a discernment last night for a woman whose husband came through. From the start he wanted her to know how much he loved her and throughout gave evidence that he was still with her. Still, it wasn't enough. She had questions for me. 

"Why didn't he talk about the business he had?"

"Why didn't he tell you my nickname for him?"

"Why didn't he have any messages for his children?"

Why, if I really was communicating with her deceased husband didn't he answer those questions for her?

The short answer is, "I don't know." 

The long answer is that the souls on the other side seem to know that they can't use my brain for long periods of time. Because of this, they see the time in which they're using me to communicate as limited, and precious. They know that they don't have the luxury of being able to "shoot the breeze" with those they love during this time. Consequently, what they communicate through me is their agenda, not mine, nor the person's sitting across from me. 

This is why I ask people all of the time to leave their expectations at the door. I was stunned when, at the end of the session, she told me how if she would have heard the answers to those questions it would have reassured her she was in fact hearing from her husband. Forget the fact that he brought up that she went swimming a few days ago to let her know that he was indeed aware of what was going on in her life. 

Forget the idea that he mentioned his sister, by name, a name that I can't even spell let alone pronounce anymore. An the idea that he talked about having two kids with his first wife, and that a third one, his daughter, had passed away at a young age, a fact that she forgot completely about. These, along with numerous other what were, to me, meaningful bits of messages, were completely lost to her. 

While he didn't tell her what she wanted to hear, he told her what she needed to hear. That he was still alive and in love with her. As I told her afterwards, I'm only the messenger. I can only pass along what was given to me. 

If you see me, or another medium, please check your expectations at the "door" before you begin your session. It'll go much better for you if you do. 

Okay, I'm all moved in, and excited about my new home! I was slowly moving boxes over the months of June and July, but the final move, in which boxes went into my friends' Camille and Steve Massing's pickup truck took a lot longer than I anticipated. So instead of one day and two trips, it took 2 days and 7 trips! I just cannot thank Camille and Steve enough, especially Camille. 

In case you didn't know, my friend Camille is a very talented songwriter with the voice of an angel (http://www.camillemassing.com). While she was helping me move, we discussed the possibility of her singing her songs at my seminars. I'm excited to say that she is open to the idea! 

This past weekend I was TIRED! LOL But after soaking in a jacuzzi tub, and getting an awesome massage, I'm good to go! 

So, I'm looking forward to helping people reconnect with their loved ones on the other side in a bigger way than before. I'm going to close for now, but tomorrow, I'll start sharing with you some of the important revelations that came to me over the two days I moved. 

Blessings,

Anthony