No expectations!

I did a discernment last night for a woman whose husband came through. From the start he wanted her to know how much he loved her and throughout gave evidence that he was still with her. Still, it wasn't enough. She had questions for me. 

"Why didn't he talk about the business he had?"

"Why didn't he tell you my nickname for him?"

"Why didn't he have any messages for his children?"

Why, if I really was communicating with her deceased husband didn't he answer those questions for her?

The short answer is, "I don't know." 

The long answer is that the souls on the other side seem to know that they can't use my brain for long periods of time. Because of this, they see the time in which they're using me to communicate as limited, and precious. They know that they don't have the luxury of being able to "shoot the breeze" with those they love during this time. Consequently, what they communicate through me is their agenda, not mine, nor the person's sitting across from me. 

This is why I ask people all of the time to leave their expectations at the door. I was stunned when, at the end of the session, she told me how if she would have heard the answers to those questions it would have reassured her she was in fact hearing from her husband. Forget the fact that he brought up that she went swimming a few days ago to let her know that he was indeed aware of what was going on in her life. 

Forget the idea that he mentioned his sister, by name, a name that I can't even spell let alone pronounce anymore. An the idea that he talked about having two kids with his first wife, and that a third one, his daughter, had passed away at a young age, a fact that she forgot completely about. These, along with numerous other what were, to me, meaningful bits of messages, were completely lost to her. 

While he didn't tell her what she wanted to hear, he told her what she needed to hear. That he was still alive and in love with her. As I told her afterwards, I'm only the messenger. I can only pass along what was given to me. 

If you see me, or another medium, please check your expectations at the "door" before you begin your session. It'll go much better for you if you do. 

Television taping

My friend Camille drove me to DIA where I was flying out of to Erie, PA. When I booked the flight, there was a 30 minute layover in Cleveland, Ohio, so you can imagine my surprise when my ticket showed that I was arriving in Cleveland 5 minutes after my connecting flight was boarding! 

To make matters worse, the gate I was supposed to be at was on the other side of the airport! Oh, and did I mention that my flight was thirty minutes late leaving, AND arriving? To Continental Airlines credit, they did hold the connecting flight until I, and several other passengers arrived. 

When I finally did get to Erie International Airport, Natalie Smith-Blakeslee and her husband, Dr. Steve Hodak were waiting for me. Somehow, despite it all, I was only about 15 minutes late to EIA. 

Natalie and I had spoken over the phone and through e-mails numerous times, but this was the first time we were meeting face to face. We all went to grab a bite to eat, and then it was off to the studio to tape a television show. 

The show went over very well. Natalie and I had a great chemistry together, and it was easy to work with her. I also found out what a talented Medium she really is. There was a great contrast between us in a number of different ways, especially in the way we delivered information. I ended up thinking of it as the "East Coast," and "West Coast" styles of Mediumship. 

One young lady came up for a reading which went over very well. So well, that she didn't even respond to Natalie, just kept looking at her stunned. Natalie asked her if she was okay, and she just nodded and said, "You're amazing!" I can second that. 

During the break, I told her that her father had more to say to her, much more. So she, her sister, her daughter and I went off by ourselves and I gave her a reading off camera. She did a little interview afterwards on camera and I explained that sometimes when someone on the Other Side has passed wants to convey private information they'll wait for a more discreet time. 

Another reason for this is that if they weren't the type of person to speak in a public setting when they were alive, they'd be reluctant to do so even after they have passed. 

After the taping, Natalie and Steve to me to the camper trailer they own in a campgrounds near their home. All in all, it was a great time meeting Natalie and Steve, and spreading the message that death doesn't end life, love or relationships to an audience who had never heard of me before. 

I'm sorry, but would you repeat that?

It's been kind of crazy for me lately. Yesterday, I was on my computer at all my brain was so fried. 

My goal is to be one of the country's most sought after Mediums. I don't want this for the sake of my ego, but because the waiting list of those on the Other Side who want to talk to their loved ones is long. Of course, I could do a lot more discernments if I offered them for free, and when I first found out I had this ability, I did. It didn't take me long to figure out that was the wrong thing to do. 

As my reputation started building, more and more people would ask for a reading to prove, supposedly, that I'm a fraud. Why wouldn't they? It didn't cost them a dime to do so. 

Now, this is the work I do, and the only work I do. It's also very stressful on my brain. So, I'm going to have to start taking vitamins, going for walks, etc., to build my stamina. This is especially important due to everything that seems to be falling in place as far as my career. 

This past Wednesday I was doing a discernment (Medium reading) for a woman whose mother passed in January. Her father and mother were coming through for her. At one point I was told to bring up the "medical procedure" that was "invasive, but not involving a life threatening situation." So I did. I made motions with my right hand around my chest area. 

"Oh, they must be talking about my boob job!" Kate (not her real name) said, laughing. I've heard some interesting things in my career, but this was a first! 

What was funny was that afterwards, she completely relaxed during the rest of the session. I, however, was a little less relaxed. I was hoping she didn't see me, occasionally, admiring the work the doctor did! 

My unknown Angel

I did a discernment for a couple of women, Diane and Joy, who came to see me together yesterday. It was they second time they've come to see me, the first time was 6 months ago. 

I don't remember who came through for them the last time, but they did tell me that people they didn't hear from last time did come through this time. Diane told me that before they came to see me she prayed to her father to come through time,  that he let her know it really was him coming through by mentioning the horses they owned when she was a child. So when I pointed at her and told her I was being told to talk about horses… they both gasped. 

It was a great session in which one man, an uncle who referred to himself as "the family clown," and "the village idiot," came through. Both Joy and Diane acknowledge that where ever he was, it turned into a party! 

But what really struck me as interesting was that Joy told me that several people in the building she works in have come to see me, and that I'm, on occasion, the subject of conversation in their "smoking room." Not only that, Joy also told me that there's a woman who frequently comes to them (I'm not sure if she works with them) and asks for testimonials for me, and even has a "newsletter(?)" she prints about me! 

If you're this lady, please contact me.  I'd love to thank you for your support! 

I bought Lisa Williams new book, "Life Among the Dead." I've only started reading it and I'm having a lot of fun with it. I'm a huge fan of Lisa's, and I have a lot of respect for her. Although she won't remember me I met her several years ago. My first thought, with her hair and her personality was, "You've got to be kidding me!" 

I saw her on Good Morning America yesterday morning. She gave a great interview and as usual, did it with a great deal of poise. She was interviewed by Diane Sawyer. I judged, by the questions being asked, that while Mediums have come a long way, thanks to people like Lisa, George Anderson, and John Edward, Allison Du Bois, and so many others,  we still have a long way to go. 

Lisa, you rock! I love who you are! 

In my other blog on WordPress, I'm going to continue my discussion of "sacred signs." 

Blessings,

Anthony 

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