No expectations!

Even though I tell people who come to see me not to have expectations, I know it's only human nature to do so. They still come to me hoping to hear from a specific things from a specific person. 

Last night though, I did a discernment for a young lady (17 years old) that proved to me that I'm right in asking for this seemingly unreasonable request. Cathy (not her real name) was with her aunt Kerri, and I said to Kerri, "Who's Tracy?"

"I don't know," Kerri said. 

"Yes, you do," I insisted. "She's has a grandmother who passed from some kind of brain condition, dementia, Alzheimer's, something along those lines."

It went back and forth between us, with Kerri insisting she didn't know who Tracy was and I insisting that she did. 

Suddenly Cathy said, "Oh my god! I know who that is!" I looked over at her. Her lips were trembling. Actually, her whole body was literally shaking. "Tracy is my father's ex-girlfriend! Her grandmother had dementia when she died!" 

So I asked her to verify a couple more pieces of evidence, which she did. When I was confident I was with the right person, I told her, "You're right, I'm with you." 

The one thing that puzzled both Cathy and me was why this woman was coming through for her. After all, the woman herself was telling me she barely knew Cathy, which Cathy again confirmed. She apparently heard a lot about Cathy from her daughter, the ex-girlfriend of Cathy's father. 

She was coming through to encourage Cathy to follow her dreams. During the discernment, things came through that her mother, who was also there, confirmed that there was no way I could have known it unless I was being told by someone they couldn't see or hear. This woman wanted Cathy to know she was worthy of what she wanted for herself, something she was never told by her father. 

After the session was over and I was driving home, I knew her life would be different due to the discernment. I couldn't help but wonder, though, what would have happened to Cathy and the kind of choices she would have made if she shut this woman out. After all, this woman was not the person Cathy was expecting, or even hoping,  to hear from! 

Secrets

I normally don't talk to someone after they receive a discernment from me. Let me clarify that, a lot of people will tell me about things that came through during a discernment, as well as cherished memories of their loved one. But usually, they don't bother to keep in touch with me. 

Writing my book, I asked people who have received a discernment from me for their stories, and I was honestly surprised as to how few people actually responded. Well, I got an idea as to why last night. A woman who received a discernment from me three weeks ago told me how "vulnerable" she felt during the session. 

When I'm bringing someone through, I'm privy to a number of "secrets." It's usually how someone who has crossed over let's their loved one know it's really them. Believe me, I think I've heard them all. I don't remember the last time I was shocked. 

Luckily for me, I have a very short memory when it comes to these "secrets." I think it's because I'm accessing a part of my brain during a discernment that becomes "dormant" when the session is over. 

So why would someone who's coming through risk embarrassing their loved one by bringing up a long lost memory, or feeling of guilt? Because usually when someone comes to see me, there's often a feeling of unfinished business. Often it's because there wasn't a chance to say good-bye. It may be a feeling of not having done enough, or not having said, "I'm sorry," for a hurt that was caused. Many times it's about moving on with our lives here on this plane. 

Whatever it is, it's usually something that needs to come out in the open in order to be healed, and let go of, so our journey on this life of life can continued and their journey on the other side can evolve as well. The bottom line is that if you live your life to the full, and love those in your life to the full, you probably won't need a medium such as myself to make amends to those you love, and express that love you feel, when it's a little too late to do so, at least while they and you, are alive. 

Weeding my garden

Is there someone in your life that you only hear from when they need something? I have, or I should say, I had someone in my life like that. Until this morning that is. 

The person I'm referring to is having problems financially, and is trying to make a go of it as a professional graphologist. So asked me for me, so I made a number of suggestions as to what she could do to gain more exposure. Typically, she would tell me how that wouldn't work for her, and then I wouldn't hear from her again, until she wanted, or needed more advice. 

I'm not sure which amazes me more… the idea that she thought she could get away with it with me, of all people, or the idea that I let her get away with as long as I did. Now, I know that the majority of the responsibility for the way she acted towards me is my own. However, one of the things I've come to realize as I've healed is that my life is too short to have this type of person in it. 

There's a very popular morning radio show here in Denver with two disc jockeys that talks about "weeding your garden," as in ridding your life of people who just don't fit in it. This can sometimes be a hard thing to do, but it's necessary in the name of LOVE. In this case, love of yourself. 

I really believe that every once in a while it's a good idea to take a look at the garden of our lives, and pull up the weeds taking away from our enjoyment of it. 

I'm sorry, but would you repeat that?

It's been kind of crazy for me lately. Yesterday, I was on my computer at all my brain was so fried. 

My goal is to be one of the country's most sought after Mediums. I don't want this for the sake of my ego, but because the waiting list of those on the Other Side who want to talk to their loved ones is long. Of course, I could do a lot more discernments if I offered them for free, and when I first found out I had this ability, I did. It didn't take me long to figure out that was the wrong thing to do. 

As my reputation started building, more and more people would ask for a reading to prove, supposedly, that I'm a fraud. Why wouldn't they? It didn't cost them a dime to do so. 

Now, this is the work I do, and the only work I do. It's also very stressful on my brain. So, I'm going to have to start taking vitamins, going for walks, etc., to build my stamina. This is especially important due to everything that seems to be falling in place as far as my career. 

This past Wednesday I was doing a discernment (Medium reading) for a woman whose mother passed in January. Her father and mother were coming through for her. At one point I was told to bring up the "medical procedure" that was "invasive, but not involving a life threatening situation." So I did. I made motions with my right hand around my chest area. 

"Oh, they must be talking about my boob job!" Kate (not her real name) said, laughing. I've heard some interesting things in my career, but this was a first! 

What was funny was that afterwards, she completely relaxed during the rest of the session. I, however, was a little less relaxed. I was hoping she didn't see me, occasionally, admiring the work the doctor did! 

Deadlines

Yesterday, after I finished blogging and doing everything I could think of doing on my computer,  I left the Starbucks I was sitting in and decided to walk to the grocery store in the same shopping center. So I put my computer in my car, and started walking when I saw a bumper sticker that said, "I'd Rather Be On Stage."  I knew immediately it was another sign. 

Then this morning I was journaling about a realization I had in my morning meditation. When I was done I saw a booklet laying on the floor of my living room. It was entitled, "Messages From Your Angels," and it was part of a Doreen Virtue Angel Card deck. The sub-title was, "What Your Angels Want You to Know." 

Inside the booklet was a small card that had, "Inspire Hope," printed on it. I knew that coupled with the bumper sticker I saw yesterday it was an answer to a prayer. I talk more about this on my other blog http://anthonyquinatapsychicmedium.wordpress.com. 

Yesterday being the dreaded deadline for filing taxes, I thought about writing about "deadlines" but decided against it until today. I was told once that the word, "deadline" came from the term "a drop dead date," in which something absolutely had to be done by, no later. 

I thought, that made sense; and it also makes sense that it would be called a DEAD line. Theoretically, after that, all options are exhausted. If you think about it, we were all born with a "deadline." Everyone we know and love, like, dislike, even hate, has a "dead line," or "drop dead date." 

I just want to suggest to you that since you don't know when your drop dead date is, you live each day as though it were your last. Since you don't know what the drop dead date of a loved one is, you treat them as though it were today. This goes for those you like as well. 

As for those you dislike or hate, perhaps it's time to do show some forgiveness. Relationships are hard enough in this life. The problems don't go ahead with death, but they are harder to resolve on the Other Side.

 

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Signs

When I was in Junior High there was a hit song by "The Five Man Electrical Band," entitled, "Signs." "Signs, signs, everywhere there's signs…" the chorus went. 

I'm becoming more and more aware that signs really are everywhere! One of them was an answer to my prayer and it came in a phone conversation I had with Josie, who told me of an incredible sign I'll tell you about in a minute. 

Starting last August, I set a goal to re-make my life completely by September 30th, of 2008. Shortly after that, several psychic types have been telling me that this will be a HUGE year for me, and that it will really explode around October of this year! 

Well, just because a psychic tells me, or you, something doesn't necessarily mean that you can just sit around and wait for it to happen. So, I've been proactively ensuring that my plans and their predictions become a reality. To paraphrase my new friend, Dr. Noah St. John (www.successclinic.com), "I'm not only working on my inner game, but I'm also working on my outer game as well." One of the things I'm doing is "afformations." To find out more about what afformations are, please see Noah's website. Afformations really can change your life. 

As I mentioned before, I'm also developing an attitude of gratitude. But lately, over the past week or so, I'm feeling as though I'm being nudged by God to ask for what I want, and look for the answer in signs. So I've been doing research into the whole notion of signs, and boy, have they been showing up for me! So much so, I'm thinking I'm going to write an e-book on the subject. 

Anyway, there are a few people in the world I just love talking to. One of them is Camille, whom I talked about yesterday, and another is Noah, whom I just talked about. Another is no stranger to you if you're a regular reader of my blog, and that's Josie Varga. 

Josie has Cerebral Palsy, is bi-laterally deaf, and has more moxy than I have on my best day! I love talking to her, and sometimes we'll talk several times a week; other weeks it'll only be once. Well, yesterday I got a "signal from the ether" to call Josie. 

We started talking about the television show she's trying to place with a producer, and ultimately a network which revolves around Medium Natalie Smith-Blakeslee, and yours truly.

Then she told me about the "sign" she and her family saw last Saturday. 

Josie, her husband John, and their two daughters, Erica, and Lea, all went shopping at a local mall. When they came home Erica looked up and said, "Wow, look at that!" 

Josie, John and Lea all looked up and what they saw moved Josie to tears. A single cloud was in the sky in the shape of an "angel." "You could see it had wings, and it was wearing a robe!" Josie told me. 

"Do you see that? Do you see that?" she asked John. 

"Yeah, I see it," John replied. 

Josie suggested that John get a camera so they could take a picture of it, when the cloud started to dissipate. A few moments later is was gone. 

John reminded Josie that another Medium told her there would be a sign in a cloud. Josie looked for her taped recording of the session. When she found it and played it, sure enough, the Medium had predicted that there would be such a sign - for John, from his father. 

John, the "open-minded skeptic" was flabbergasted. Was it really possible that his father had gone to such great lengths to let John know he loved him from the Other Side?

I teased John about being a skeptic, an open minded one, but still.... "I'm not a skeptic anymore!" John said. 

As Blaise Pascal once said, "There's enough light for those who believe to see, and enough darkness to blind those who don't." 

For me, John's sign from his father was a sign from God telling me I'm on the right track. 

Wishing you the very best life has to offer to you and those you love, 

Anthony

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Someone I'd like you to meet...

My closest, and dearest friend, whom I've known for about 19 years is Camille Massing. I can't begin to imagine where I would be in my life right now if it weren't for her. When I was struggling with the idea of being a Medium, she was there with her unconditional support. 

Camille is a singer with the voice of an angel. She's also a talented songwriter.  Over the years we've known each other we've written a number of songs together, and she recorded them onto a cd entitled, "King's Ransom." It's a compilation of Christian songs that you'll enjoy if you like Joni Mitchell, or Amy Grant. 

She's a incredible spirit, and her love for God is reflected in her beautiful music. You can find her cd on www.cdbaby.com, or by going to www.camillemassing.com. Personally, my favorite song is "King's Ransom." Give it a listen! 

I received an e-mail this morning from a woman whose daughter, Chrissy, came through during her discernment session with me. She is asking for sponsorship as she walks in a fundraiser for suicide prevention. You can find more information on my website. I hope you'll find it in your heart to make a donation! 

Well, it's going to be a short one! I've got to get cracking on my taxes! 

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Now I remember!

I did readings today at a bookstore filling in for a friend of mine who combines Astrology and Tarot to do readings for her clients. I don't do either. While the statement is up and down on my website www.anthonyquinata.com (right now it's down), I am able to do clairvoyant readings. I received this testimonial earlier today - 

I received a psychic reading from Anthony and was very impressed. We spoke about my current challenges and some past life energy I was holding on to. Due to my reading with Anthony I was able to release those old ideas and look forward to a more productive future. Mary 

 - A little side note -  she told me that since the reading she's started losing weight without even trying! 

I can sit down with someone and usually tell them what's going on but I prefer to use a personal item of theirs or a picture. It's less unnerving for the sitter that way. I've found that sitting there looking at someone and telling them what's going on in their lives tends to freak people out. Sometimes the accuracy of my reading freaks people out. 

Anyway, I was pretty busy once I got started. I did a number of readings for some really great people. One man came in and found out that the reason for everything that was going on in his life was that God, and his soul, wanted him to reach out to others and follow his heart's desire. 

He was stunned when I told him I saw his great grandfather with a saber in his hand (he was the only one stunned by this vision)! I also mentioned that I felt there was a Civil War connection to his family. He told me later that his great grandfather was an officer under General Custer, and his great, great grandfather fought in the Civil War. All of this tied in with his heart's desire. 

I'll write about the importance of following your heart's desire later this week. 

Another man came in who is a practicing astrologer. He met a woman recently and asked if I could tell him anything about her and where their relationship was going to go. He heard that I do psychometry (object) and photo readings, so he brought several photos of her he printed off of his computer. He was stunned that I was able to describe her personality and their new relationship so precisely. 

After the reading he then started to affirm everything I told him by telling me about their charts! LOL I'm not sure how he missed my eyes glazing over as I know next to nothing about Astrology! 

A woman was waiting for me who would end up being my last reading of the day.  "I heard you can talk to dead people," she said. 

"Yes, but I'm not doing that sort of thing today. You'll have to make an appointment." 

"I want to talk to my husband!" she demanded. 

Okay, she broke my number 1 rule - don't tell me whom you're wanting to reconnect with. 

"Can you do this, or can't you?" 

"Well, yes, I can, but I'm not doing that sort of thing right now. Please make an appointment and I'll be happy to help you then."

She kept insisting so I told her I would do a ten minute session for her - big mistake. "Your husband passed from cancer. Yes?" 

"Yes." 

"He passed about 7 month ago." 

Her eyes became wide. "Yes!" 

"He wants me to acknowledge someone who has a beard. Do you know who this is?"

"No."

"Yes, you do." 

"Okay, my brother in law has a beard, but I don't want to talk about him. I want to talk about my husband. I want you to give me some specific message so that I'll know it's him." 

That's when I remembered why I have my "rule number 1." People who come in demanding to talk to someone in particular often want to control the session. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way. They find out very quickly that they're not in control of what those who come through have to say, nor am I in control of that. The souls are in control, from beginning to end. 

The souls are performance animals. Neither am I. I tried to tell her that, but she wouldn't listen. Finally,  I looked at the clock and told her, "I'm sorry, but your ten minutes are up." 

It was a great reminder for me of why I used to disqualify from receiving a reading anyone who tells me whom they are hoping to hear from in the future. 

Being grateful

I had a great session with a young lady named Jill Wednesday night. She came hoping to hear from her mother and she did. 

Her mother had such great energy; and Jill, while feeling nervous and skeptical, was awesome throughout! The love she had for her mother and her mother had for her was awesome! Jill posted a comment thanking me, but as I told her, "Don't forget to thank God for making this possible, and your mother too. This takes a lot of energy and effort on her part!" 

Speaking of gratitude, it snowed most of the day yesterday which put me in a lazy mood. I received a text from my friend Debbie who asked me if I thought Mother Nature would ever make up her mind as far as the weather was concerned. 

Well, having decided to stay inside at home all day yesterday I wrote back, "I sure as hell hope so!" This morning it came to me that the constantly changing weather this time of the year is one of the reasons I chose to live in Colorado! While it snowed all day yesterday, it'll be in the 70's by the middle of next week according to the weather forecasters! I've got to tell you, I love it! 

A lot of people think that because of the work I do I'm somehow closer to God than most. Nothing could be farther from the truth, although I have been meditating over the past several days about the idea that God is within me. I've also been thinking a lot about the nature of this Spirit of God within me. I then started thinking that I really have a lot to be grateful for. 

I was watching a movie last week and the thought came to me that overall, with all of it's ups and downs, I've had a very good life. I just didn't bother to see it that way. 

Well, this morning I started being grateful for my life, and everything about it, the way it is now. Things didn't magically start getting better, but I did start feeling better! 

Then a number of things I've read before started to make sense to me! For instance, the idea that what we dwell on grows in our life. I used to wonder how I could focus on my life being anything other than the way it is now. Now I know. If I want things to be different I have to start being grateful for the way I want them to be, even if they're not that way now. 

Now that my eyes are open, I'm going to be even more grateful for all that I have in my life, and to the God who gave me my life. I know that only good can come from this. I'll be sharing that good with you as it does. 

It's my hope that sharing this with you, you'll start to think of all that you have to be grateful for in your life, especially those you love and are still with you. I'd like to suggest that you tell them how much they mean to you before it's too late, and you have to come to a Medium like me to do so. 

Blessings. 

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