An open letter to suicide survivors

I received a message this morning from a woman who received a discernment from me over a year ago. She told me about a friend of hers whose daughter committed suicide. Her friend is grieving not only the death of her daughter, but also fears her daughter is in "hell."  

I asked her to pass on the following, and thought I would share it with you. If you know someone who has survived the suicide of a loved one, please ask them to read this as well. 

Your friend told me about your daughter and your fears. I'm hoping I can help ease your pain in some small way. 

Although I'm not myself a parent, it doesn't take a whole lot of imagination to understand your grief. You love your children so much, it's unthinkable as to how they could think their life isn't worth living. 

If thoughts of suicide were as detectable as any other terminal disease then we might be able to stop it before it's too late. The problem is that all too often, those suffering from this hide what's going on so well, no one sees it until it's already done. 

I am a full time, professional, Psychic Medium however, and I've talked to those who have crossed over a countless number of times now, including those who have taken their own lives. I want to make something VERY clear - I would not be able to communicate with them, nor would they be able to communicate with me if not for God's love and grace. 

Those who have died by their own hand have made it very clear that they were not condemned to "Hell," nor were they scorned by God. In fact, the exact opposite is true. They are held more closely by God's compassion, understanding and forgiveness.  The "hell" they may be suffering from is the pain they know their passing caused their loved ones they left behind. 

Often when I do a discernment (reading) there is a line of loved ones who are wanting to communicate. However, if there is someone who committed suicide in their midst, they are moved to the front of the line. This also applies to those who lost their lives at the hands of someone else. Why would this be so? Because they have the most to say. 

I'm sure that your daughter now knows it would have been better to finish her lessons here on Earth,*but she is now continuing her journey in a more beautiful, peaceful and compassionate place. 

Your daughter was a sensitive soul, with a purity we all have when we begin our lives and lessons. Most of us put on protective armor to protect our souls while we're on our journey in this life. Your daughter wasn't able to do that. That's why she thought it was best to do what she did. 

God doesn't make mistakes, but He does understand when we do. God knows and loves us to the very core and fiber of who we are. 

Your daughter's new journey, in part, is to help you understand, and accept, that what she did was not your fault in any way, nor is it due to some failure on your part as a parent. She would also want you to know that's she's okay, in God's loving arms, and still with you from the Other Side so you can begin to put the pieces of your life back together. When you finish your own journey here, you will see her again. I promise you that you will. 

Grief is the price we pay for love. At the end of grief in this world is joy in the next. Hold on until that wonderful day. 

Blessings,

Anthony

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Signs

When I was in Junior High there was a hit song by "The Five Man Electrical Band," entitled, "Signs." "Signs, signs, everywhere there's signs…" the chorus went. 

I'm becoming more and more aware that signs really are everywhere! One of them was an answer to my prayer and it came in a phone conversation I had with Josie, who told me of an incredible sign I'll tell you about in a minute. 

Starting last August, I set a goal to re-make my life completely by September 30th, of 2008. Shortly after that, several psychic types have been telling me that this will be a HUGE year for me, and that it will really explode around October of this year! 

Well, just because a psychic tells me, or you, something doesn't necessarily mean that you can just sit around and wait for it to happen. So, I've been proactively ensuring that my plans and their predictions become a reality. To paraphrase my new friend, Dr. Noah St. John (www.successclinic.com), "I'm not only working on my inner game, but I'm also working on my outer game as well." One of the things I'm doing is "afformations." To find out more about what afformations are, please see Noah's website. Afformations really can change your life. 

As I mentioned before, I'm also developing an attitude of gratitude. But lately, over the past week or so, I'm feeling as though I'm being nudged by God to ask for what I want, and look for the answer in signs. So I've been doing research into the whole notion of signs, and boy, have they been showing up for me! So much so, I'm thinking I'm going to write an e-book on the subject. 

Anyway, there are a few people in the world I just love talking to. One of them is Camille, whom I talked about yesterday, and another is Noah, whom I just talked about. Another is no stranger to you if you're a regular reader of my blog, and that's Josie Varga. 

Josie has Cerebral Palsy, is bi-laterally deaf, and has more moxy than I have on my best day! I love talking to her, and sometimes we'll talk several times a week; other weeks it'll only be once. Well, yesterday I got a "signal from the ether" to call Josie. 

We started talking about the television show she's trying to place with a producer, and ultimately a network which revolves around Medium Natalie Smith-Blakeslee, and yours truly.

Then she told me about the "sign" she and her family saw last Saturday. 

Josie, her husband John, and their two daughters, Erica, and Lea, all went shopping at a local mall. When they came home Erica looked up and said, "Wow, look at that!" 

Josie, John and Lea all looked up and what they saw moved Josie to tears. A single cloud was in the sky in the shape of an "angel." "You could see it had wings, and it was wearing a robe!" Josie told me. 

"Do you see that? Do you see that?" she asked John. 

"Yeah, I see it," John replied. 

Josie suggested that John get a camera so they could take a picture of it, when the cloud started to dissipate. A few moments later is was gone. 

John reminded Josie that another Medium told her there would be a sign in a cloud. Josie looked for her taped recording of the session. When she found it and played it, sure enough, the Medium had predicted that there would be such a sign - for John, from his father. 

John, the "open-minded skeptic" was flabbergasted. Was it really possible that his father had gone to such great lengths to let John know he loved him from the Other Side?

I teased John about being a skeptic, an open minded one, but still.... "I'm not a skeptic anymore!" John said. 

As Blaise Pascal once said, "There's enough light for those who believe to see, and enough darkness to blind those who don't." 

For me, John's sign from his father was a sign from God telling me I'm on the right track. 

Wishing you the very best life has to offer to you and those you love, 

Anthony

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Someone I'd like you to meet...

My closest, and dearest friend, whom I've known for about 19 years is Camille Massing. I can't begin to imagine where I would be in my life right now if it weren't for her. When I was struggling with the idea of being a Medium, she was there with her unconditional support. 

Camille is a singer with the voice of an angel. She's also a talented songwriter.  Over the years we've known each other we've written a number of songs together, and she recorded them onto a cd entitled, "King's Ransom." It's a compilation of Christian songs that you'll enjoy if you like Joni Mitchell, or Amy Grant. 

She's a incredible spirit, and her love for God is reflected in her beautiful music. You can find her cd on www.cdbaby.com, or by going to www.camillemassing.com. Personally, my favorite song is "King's Ransom." Give it a listen! 

I received an e-mail this morning from a woman whose daughter, Chrissy, came through during her discernment session with me. She is asking for sponsorship as she walks in a fundraiser for suicide prevention. You can find more information on my website. I hope you'll find it in your heart to make a donation! 

Well, it's going to be a short one! I've got to get cracking on my taxes! 

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Being grateful

I had a great session with a young lady named Jill Wednesday night. She came hoping to hear from her mother and she did. 

Her mother had such great energy; and Jill, while feeling nervous and skeptical, was awesome throughout! The love she had for her mother and her mother had for her was awesome! Jill posted a comment thanking me, but as I told her, "Don't forget to thank God for making this possible, and your mother too. This takes a lot of energy and effort on her part!" 

Speaking of gratitude, it snowed most of the day yesterday which put me in a lazy mood. I received a text from my friend Debbie who asked me if I thought Mother Nature would ever make up her mind as far as the weather was concerned. 

Well, having decided to stay inside at home all day yesterday I wrote back, "I sure as hell hope so!" This morning it came to me that the constantly changing weather this time of the year is one of the reasons I chose to live in Colorado! While it snowed all day yesterday, it'll be in the 70's by the middle of next week according to the weather forecasters! I've got to tell you, I love it! 

A lot of people think that because of the work I do I'm somehow closer to God than most. Nothing could be farther from the truth, although I have been meditating over the past several days about the idea that God is within me. I've also been thinking a lot about the nature of this Spirit of God within me. I then started thinking that I really have a lot to be grateful for. 

I was watching a movie last week and the thought came to me that overall, with all of it's ups and downs, I've had a very good life. I just didn't bother to see it that way. 

Well, this morning I started being grateful for my life, and everything about it, the way it is now. Things didn't magically start getting better, but I did start feeling better! 

Then a number of things I've read before started to make sense to me! For instance, the idea that what we dwell on grows in our life. I used to wonder how I could focus on my life being anything other than the way it is now. Now I know. If I want things to be different I have to start being grateful for the way I want them to be, even if they're not that way now. 

Now that my eyes are open, I'm going to be even more grateful for all that I have in my life, and to the God who gave me my life. I know that only good can come from this. I'll be sharing that good with you as it does. 

It's my hope that sharing this with you, you'll start to think of all that you have to be grateful for in your life, especially those you love and are still with you. I'd like to suggest that you tell them how much they mean to you before it's too late, and you have to come to a Medium like me to do so. 

Blessings. 

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More musings

I want to continue my thoughts about the reaction people have to my work, whether the response is to me personally, or to someone who has received a reading from me. 

I've been called a lot of things. Two of the milder e-mails I've received are, "You are crazy, and wrong," and "No one will believe you." One of the harsher things I've been told is that there's "a special place in hell for me." You get the idea. 

While I've received far more positive remarks than negative ones, I believe that in each and every case in which someone said something less than flattering to me or about me, that they meant well. I believe that the negative things said are based primarily in fear. 

People fear what they don't understand. People fear death because they don't understand it. So then you have me telling people that death is an illusion, that we don't die, nor do our loved ones, well.... 

I remember one night when I was at a party someone asked me what I do for a living, I sensed he really didn't want to know, and I told him that. Of course, he kept insisting that I tell him. "I talk to dead people," I told him. The fury in his face made me wonder if I needed to be ready to duck a punch that may be coming my way. 

He told me not to do anything like that during the party. Well, I did. The people who witnessed it were amazed, but this guy's wife was upset. "What you're doing is offending God," she told me, calling what I do, "necromancy." For the record, necromancy is consulting the dead in order to predict the future, something I don't do. But do you think they were open to hearing that? 

The other thing I told them was that I'm able to do what I do, I believe, because of God, not in spite of God. God uses me as an instrument, as do the souls, to bring comfort and peace to those who are mourning. To me, this is something a loving and merciful God does. Not the judgmental God of those who judge me. 

Maybe that's one of the reasons for the upset. People have to rethink their image of God. 

I also think that there's another, very real, and for some people, upsetting reason as well. Will, who is a journalist, and published author in England may have put it best. "If what you're saying is true, it means that I may have to re-think the way I'm living my life, and I'm not sure I'm ready to do that just yet."

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Seance?

Dear Anthony, 

I'm a little stupefied by having to write back to my nephew's wife about the "seance" she heard about. I'm amazed by the instant reaction people can have. I reacted in my own way after Halloween night…. Anyway, just curious if you call what you do a "seance." That word never crossed my mind. 

Hope you are well, 

Gina

Dear Gina, 

I'm often amazed at the "instant reaction" I receive when I tell people what I do. You and I aren't the only ones either. 

I received a phone call today from another friend of mine, Jennifer. Jennifer is married to Mike, whom I was best friends with many years ago. In fact I was the best man at their wedding. 

Well, Jennifer told me that Mike went to visit his family last October and they told him in no uncertain terms that they were worried about the "darkness" Mike and Jennifer were entering being friends with me. This was about the time I came to your relatives home and did the small group readings for whomever cared to attend, and interestingly, about the same reaction to what happened! 

To answer your question directly, John Edward and Suzanne Northrup refer to their sessions as a seance, I don't. It brings up the wrong connotation of what I do. In a typical "seance," specific spirits are called to make an appearance. This is not what I do. 

When spirits show up during a session, they do so out of love, desire to communicate with their loved ones they left behind,  and their own free will. God's love and grace make it possible for the communication to take place. As for me, I'm only the instrument in the process. 

That's why I refer to what I do as "discernment sessions," and not "seances." It's not like I snap my fingers and the spirits show up, they snap their fingers and I show up. I then do my best to understand the messages the spirits are trying to convey to their loved ones. 

Finally, most people object to what I do on religious grounds. In Christian Scriptures, Paul about the ability to "discern spirits" as one of the gifts of the Holy Spirit. So I guess the bottom line is that this ability is God's gift to me. The peace of mind people receive from a session is God's gift to them, given through me. 

Explain it to your aunt that way, and see if it helps her. 

Thanks for the empathy for the reactions I get from people. I often say that this "gift" sometimes makes me feel as though I won a seat on the game show, "Shoot the Messenger!" 

Blessings, 

Anthony

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Psychic Trade Party

Kat and Maru, who call themselves "The Intuitive Divas" (www.intuitivedivas.com) host a "psychic trade party" at Kat's house. The idea is that psychics in, and around, the Denver Metro area to come and share their talents with one another. 

Only four of us ended up attending, and that included Maru and Kat! Eric, an intuitive was there along with myself. Personally, I enjoyed it. It made the readings more intimate. 

We placed ourself in a circle and basically each one of us was read by the other three. In order to respect their privacy, I'll just talk about what I was told. 

Kat cautioned me against writing my book for at least 3o days while I "cleared" myself. It's been my obsession of sorts to clear my unconscious beliefs. I'm seeing more and more lately that there's more to life than I've been allowing myself to experience. 

Kat mentioned something about my upcoming television appearance, and where television fits in my future. I won't go into it here because she brought up something I suspected all along, but I don't want to talk about it at this time until it's resolved.

Maru did say that she definitely "saw" me in radio. Eric said, "Not just radio, but satellite radio." All three were in agreement there. I asked Maru when she saw this happening and she told me sometime this year. Possibly October, but definitely within this year. 

This struck me because she's the third psychic type who mentioned October to me. One psychic who wants me to refer to her as "The Contessa," told me a couple of months ago that my life will be completely different by October. Last year, my friend, and Medium, Natalie Smith-Blakeslee told me that big things will start happening for me starting this August.  Shortly after that I resolved that my life would be different by setting goals I wanted to achieve by September 30 of this year. 

Before they said this, I had been considering radio as a way to start reaching more people but didn't consider satellite radio. All three agreed that satellite radio was the only way to reach the number of people I'm supposed to reach. I couldn't help but think, "So what does this mean? I'm going to be the male "Dr. Laura" of the psychic world?" 

Maru also said that while this won't happen, I'll be making a contact with regards to this "next month." As things progress, I'll keep you posted, I promise! 

Before all of this, since Maru volunteered to be read first I thought I would do a quick discernment. I distinctly got a spirit that was a mother energy to Maru and while I was giving her what was coming through, she verified some of it, but a lot of what I was receiving didn't resonate with her. It turns out it was her grandmother who opened the door but it was Kat's grandmother who wanted center stage! 

This happens at times when I'm trying to do what I do in a small group. The spirits will stand behind one person to get my attention, even if they're not related to that person. By the time we figured this out, I had to promise Kat I would do her discernment (reading) the next time we get together. I was able to contribute clairvoyant readings for all three though. 

I want to end by thanking Kat for opening up her home to us, and I want to thank Maru, Kat, and Eric for the fun evening and the predictions. 

Synchronicities

Well, today has been quite the day for me! I was in a bookstore earlier today and after looking at some books decided it's time to become serious about writing one of my own. In fact, my exact thought was, "Looks like writing a book is my next step." 

I was inspired to go the the New Age section and I picked up a book to look at. I wasn't sure why I picked it up, as it was a subject I was only somewhat interested in. 

As I was walking away from the shelf I was again "inspired" to look inside the book to see if there any pictures. There weren't any; instead there was a bookmark that said, "Ready to Write a Book?" I swear that's what it said! 

I stopped and read it and it was from a publishing company looking for authors! In all honesty, the bookmark was about all I read. My first thought was correct, I wasn't all that interested in the book to begin with. 

A little later I was on-line and watching a film Dr. Noah St. John sent to me via e-mail. Noah is the author of "Permission to Succeed," and "The Great Little Book of Afformations." I won't explain what "afformations" are here, but I will tell you it's a powerful technique for getting past any self sabotaging behaviors you may unconsciously have! 

In the film he talked about our subconscious blocks to creating the life we want to live. He simply mentioned that these blocks are what usually keep us from getting what we want for ourselves. You can find out more about Noah, and afformations by going to his website, www.successclinic.com.

Did I mention that when I was in the bookstore earlier, I was looking at books by Dr. Joe Vitale? In case you didn't know, he really came to the public's attention when he was one of the speakers on "The Secret" movie. 

So I'm sitting in a coffee shop, watching Noah's film when I decide to go to Vitale's website, www.mrfire.com. I've never been to his site before, and I noticed he has a video blog. So I go to it, pick a film, and what is he talking about? Our subconscious self sabotaging beliefs, and how to clear them! 

Well, God doesn't have to hit me with a lightening bolt to get me to see what I'm supposed to be learning today. I'm going to be applying what Noah started, and Vitale finished. In case you decide to go to Vitale's site, go to his video blog section, and click on the film from the Learning Annex. 

So what does all of this have to do with me being a Medium? Well, if you read my previous blog, you'll know that I'm all about living life fully. That way I won't have to hang around as a ghost, or come back around in another life. I'm just not into either of those ideas! 

Avoiding "Limbo" or "How NOT to become a ghost!"

I love Josie. She is just a hoot to talk to! 

She sent me an e-mail saying that she needed to tell me something and asked me to call her when I had a chance. So I called her when I figured she would be home from shuttling her kids (ages 6 and 8) to brownies, yoga, karate, the pistol range, etc (just kidding about Yoga!).

"Do you remember that day when you told me that there was a clock in my house that was stuck? I said, 'No, there isn't.' You said, 'Yes, there is.' Do you remember that?"

Actually, I hadn't. When I do psychic readings, or Medium discernments I access a part of my brain that I don't normally use. When I'm no longer in my zone, my brain seems to dump all of the information, so I don't remember much if anything at all of what I said. 

"You told me that there was a stuck clock, so I had John check all of our clocks. He told me that all of our clocks were working just fine. 

Well, I was looking for something yesterday (Monday) and I was looking for it all over. I couldn't find it so I looked in my husband's secretary desk. Do you know what I found? Behind all of this stuff was a clock that was stopped! You were off by an hour as far as the time, but still...!

Anthony, I used to believe in life after death, but now I really believe! The thing is, now I'm afraid of being stuck in 'limbo!'" 

"Josie," I told her, "when I was doing paranormal investigations, I used to hear that same sort of thing all of the time. I'm going to tell you what I used to tell people who said the same thing.

Live your life to the full! In other words, whether you die suddenly, or see it coming, making sure that when you pass you have no regrets. Tell everyone you love you love them. If there's any unhealed hurts between you and someone else, try to heal them. You get the idea."

Psychic Fair 2

I worked Cornerstone Books psychic fair again today, and met some really wonderful people. One of them came to see me to connect with her daughter who took her own life. A national sports champion, her daughter had a lot to live for. She was doing social work, a newly wed (married only five months when she took her life) and manic depressive. 

This young lady brought through a lot of evidence that it was her, even mentioning her prairie dog, Charlie, by name. Suicides are always such heavy energy for me to bring through. The emotional energy takes it's toll on me. 

But, as I told her mother, contrary to what most religions teach, God is very compassionate with those who take their own lives. He sees these souls for who they really are - beautiful, sensitive, and unable to handle the world, and those who live in it. So they choose to continue the lessons they need to learn in a place of compassion and peace. 

Please don't misunderstand, I'm not a proponent of anyone taking their own life. It doesn't help, and the pain caused is another lesson someone who commits suicide needs to learn on the Other Side. Problems aren't solved this way. But if someone you loved does chose this route, I just want you to know that they are cradled and held close to the heart of a loving, forgiving God. 

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Psychic Fair

I don't normally participate as a reader in psychic fairs, but there is one I do regularly for a couple of reasons. One of them is that the owner, Deb Guinther, is a friend of mine. The other reason is that I love the other readers who are usually at her fairs. 

So I went did readings and a discernment at Cornerstone Books psychic fair today. For a while it was pretty steady, but during the lulls we sat around and talked, and laughed. Boy did we laugh! 

One of the readers, Lawrence Woodson does palmistry and numerology. He's a great guy with a very dry sense of humor. He's also a great straight man for my teasing. Nancy Graves, an intuitive, who also worked at the fair was teasing him as well. I can't forget to mention Maggie Allen, who also does intuitive readings, and Sarah Shepard who combines Astrology with Tarot readings. 

It was one of those "you had to be there" sort of moments, so I'm mentioning it because sometimes psychics take themselves so seriously..., and, in my opinion, it doesn't have to be that way. In fact, if a psychic or Medium takes themselves too seriously, I tend to steer clear from them. It's the same with massage therapists. I've met many a CMT that I barely allow to come within 10 feet of me, let alone put their hands and their energy on me. 

I highly recommend that you do the same. I think it's important to work with a psychic you like, because typically they're someone you can trust. 

After the fair I joined Colorado Paranormal Rescue for an investigation. The investigation didn't really happen... at least, not the way it was planned. While they were doing their thing I met a great couple, Jamie and Richard. Jamie is an architect, and Richard is not only her husband but a contractor. 

They own a great duplex which they're renovating. One of the interesting things about this duplex was that it was once the headquarters of "Peace Jam," a Colorado based organization. Many world leaders have stayed and slept in this home. They (actually Jamie) asked me to check out there house for ghosts and while there weren't any, I surprised them both by saying, "The Dalai Lama slept in this room." He not only slept in the room, but blessed the house as well. 

The leaders who have stayed in that home definitely left an energy imprint that made you feel welcome! Combined with Jamie and Richard's love for each other, and their love of people, well, I wanted to sleep there too! 

Eventually their next door neighbor's caught wind of what was going on, and we were invited to check out their home too. They lived in the other side of the duplex, and the energy was decidedly different. While Jamie and Richard's home had all of this love and peaceful energy, the home attached to it was filled with anger and despair - and it wasn't the homeowners! 

The owners of that home are newlyweds, and very much in love, but unfortunately, previous homeowners from many years ago weren't so happy. In fact, the man committed suicide in his garage, in front of a window so his wife could see him hanging there. I found her ghost still weeping and angry in the master bedroom. I knew that her energy was affecting the marriage, so I mentioned this and they confirmed it. 

I often do house clearings for local real estate agents, for a fee, but one of the psychics with CPR was there whom I trained to cross ghosts over to the other side, and I asked her to do it for the owners of the home. After she was done, I went back into the bedroom and, I'm happy to say, the energy this time was pristine! The couple should now be able to infuse their bedroom with their own energy, of love. 

Being from Guam, I loved the open friendliness of everyone I met that night! I may just pop by one of these days, or nights, and get to know them better! Thanks you guys for making us feel so welcome, and having so much fun with us! 

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